(Hey readers, my mom is covering my butt this week with a guest post during the start of our bathroom renovation project. This is the lady who used to threaten to ground me for making comma splices. You can see it’s stood me in good stead all these years later. Enjoy! –Anne)
After a particularly exhausting week at work, I knew as I turned off my computer and rolled the phones, I was not ready to battle five o’clock traffic on the way home and then be loving to my family. I called my son and said I needed a few minutes to “decompress,” that I would see them in about an hour. I decided to head to a nearby book store to wander between the tables and shelves filled with books, listen to gentle music playing overhead, and curl up in an oversized chair with a tome or two that had caught my eye.
Gradually I could feel myself begin to relax and knew I was ready to return home. I could once again smile as my dog yipped in glee as I unlocked the front door, as the cats curled around my legs and begged for treats, and as my son peered around the bedroom door with a lopsided smile on his face and his headphones propped up off his right ear. I noticed and could appreciate the simple acts of love my family was showing me. Life was certainly appearing much more agreeable than it had an hour before.
Later that night I turned on the TV and scrolled my way through the numerous options for perusal: action and adventure, romance, comedy, crime and violence. It became apparent how many of these choices had as their common theme the hope/need for a “hero” — someone idolized for great courage, noble deeds, magical qualities, or outstanding achievements. Super heroes like Iron Man, Super Woman, and the like quickly came to mind. Sure, we all enjoy dreaming of and watching the fantastical, gallant warrior, larger than life figures when our daily lives seem oppressive, dull, frazzled, and we feel overworked or restless. At the same time, however, it also dawned on me all the unappreciated heroes we have within our daily lives and the hero-like qualities we all possess but frequently do not take time to acknowledge: those people who bravely show up and are “present” every day to parent/educate our children; who diligently protect our lives/our environment; who love us enough to put up with our mood swings, our illnesses, our passions; and who offer hope and forgiveness where necessary.
I have to admit that I did watch the 2014 remake of “Hercules” on TV Friday night (who does not like the combination of a superhero, action, and humor rolled into one movie); I laughed and played with my pets (something I had not done for most of the week); and I was able to have a meaningful conversation (longer than 5 minutes and not chore related) with my son over dinner Saturday night. I even had a jolly good time trying on practical and not so practical shoes in the local DSW store (my silliness caught the amused attention of more than a few customers).
Were these acts of a hero??? Perhaps not like those performed by Iron Man or Super Woman, but I think we all have the ability to honor the “hero” within ourselves. Can we acknowledge our fatigue or unhappiness yet find safe outlets in which to recharge? Are we present in our duties as a parent, as partners, to ourselves? Can we shake off the negativity or stress of the prior week and prepare for yet another work week? Can we forgive each other words said in frustration or anger? Can we allow ourselves to hope and grow?
I would like to think so.
I love this- you are so right about all of it. Now, to find the time to step into my inner self and recharge so I can be nice!! Well said- love from a Blunt Mom.
Thank you, Jill, for your comment. Take a minute to recharge and honor yourself and all the amazing things you do each and every day. It is so easy to neglect ourselves when we are moms.
Mama Retro: The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
Xo Jill
P.S. I like to try on silly shoes at DSW, too.
Thank you!. Let’s do some shoe shopping and have a party.
She has to invite others because I find shoe shopping torture. Apparently that apple rolled down the hill and over a cliff 😉
Lol! That is definitely true. But just get us both in a kitchen gadget shop or culinary speciality store–we can be in there for hours.
“A hero is a man who does what he can.” -Romain Rolland
At least that’s where I”m coming from. Do right by people. That is heroic.
I agree, Sarah. Thank you for your comment and honor yourself always
I agree, Sarah. Thank you for the quote and have a wonderful day!
If it’s heroic to eat my terribly uninspired meals, my husband is a hero every goddamn day.
(HI ANNE’S MOM!)
Hi Brooke. You can come cook for me any day. I keep begging for care packages from Anne ????
There are no silly shoes….just her shoes and my shoes, but they all have to be tried on.
Great post
Oh, wise and witty lady, Magnolia. I like your style. Thanks
It’s easy to get swept away by the fantastical, I’m choosing to be my own hero today – thank you for the reminder!
Good choice,Jennifer. I find it very easy to forget to treat myself before I get drained. A lesson I have to learn every once in a while. Take care
I just nodded so hard that my head fell off. The everyday actions hero is vastly under-appreciated.
Right on lynn. Take care
Great article! Some days I feel like a hero waking up the children without screaming. Some days it all runs like a well-oiled machine. I am a hero when I accept that both of those days can happen back-to-back and I have to roll with it, suck it up and try and enjoy the ride.
So true! So true! Thank you for sharing and continue to honor yourself on a daily basis.